What would you do if your husband bought his mother flowers on valentines day and not you?

I am his wife and he did give me a small box of chocolates and bought ribs for dinner, but I thought that was ridiculous that his mother got flowers and not me. Isn't it supposed to be a romantic holiday.

What would you do if your husband bought his mother flowers on valentines day and not you?
Does he know you like flowers?


I'd try to give him the hint that you like flowers and enjoy getting them, but don't be upset with him. He did buy you other things- sometimes guys just don't get it :-p


And also, what kind of flowers did he get his mom? It's understandable to get flowers for parents- my boyfriend gave his mother carnations for valentines day.


Give him the benefit of the doubt that he didn't mean anything by it, just that he wanted to show you both that he cared for you





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Reply:try talkin to him about it in a nice way. Try not to start a fight.
Reply:Does he know that you like flowers? Many women actually don't like flowers which is why he got her flowers and not you. Don't be angry. I know plenty of people, including my sister who is married, that didn't get anything for Valentines Day. Her husband asked her could he borrow some money from her on Valentines Day so your husband did real good in my eyes.
Reply:I've been married 40 years. Men aren't mind readers. (Actually women aren't either.)





If you want something from your husband you have to tell him.





If your husband's like mine, he probably thought he did something nice for you.





My husband once gave me a blueberry pie for Valentines Day. He'd been on a 5 day business trip and stopped at the bakery on the way home because he knew I liked blueberry pie. I was a little hurt at the time. But then I realized that at least he was thinking about me.





He was doing what he could do in the short amount of time he had. I'm sure he didn't remember it was Valentine's Day until he either saw some add on the television or a co-worker mentioned it.





But, I learned to bring this stuff up. No, I don't say I want a diamond ring for our anniversay birthday. But I'll remind him of the occasion. "Ok Sweetie, our anniversary is in two weeks. What are we doing to celebrate?"
Reply:i dont find anything wrong with it , i think he just wanted to let his mom know that he didnt forget about her . just think she was the only girl in his life at one time . haha . dont be offended by what he did though cut him some slack .
Reply:I would suggest you consider learning about gratitude.





Be grateful:


1) you have a man to spend Valentine's with


2) that he remembered the holiday and bought you gifts (no matter what they were)


and


3) that he wanted to spend time with you and took you out to eat ribs





Why are you jealous of the relationship that he has with his mother? I think it is sweet. I wish now that I had got my mother something for Valentine's Day, she would have appreciated it. Valentine's would have been a perfect time to let her know how special she is to me and I blew it. Gee thanks! Now I feel like a schmuck compared to the wonderful husband that you have.
Reply:i guess i can feel you're anger on this one. but "its the thought that counts," don't you think? at least you guys have each other...





besides, i always thought Valentine's Day was a pointless holiday. does the world really need a day of the year for people to prove that they love or care about someone? if we all love each other, what's the need for presents on ONE day. it can be ANY day...





if this is really bothering you, you should talk to him about it. but make sure it doesn't turn into an argument.





if i was in this situation, i honestly wouldn't have cared. besides, i don't think i could compete with someone's mother. she raised him for crying out loud! wouldn't you care that much about your family to give them a few flowers too?
Reply:Hey darl,


Ah...men! I understand why you are annoyed right now, as my bf is the same, only difference is that we are not married. I think that if you let them get away with it they will keep treating you like this. My bf always says to me, expect the worst and hope for the best, i guess it is a good theory, but it still hurts not getting much on valentines day considering it is a day of love. Maybe he just thought his mum would need the flowers more than you, especially if she is a widow or is divorced. Some men are not very thoughtful, they are just not this way inclined. I got my partner a pressie and he didn't get me anything, i thought he would feel a little embarrassed for not getting me something in return but no! Sometimes men just don't show their emotions, even though they may feel like it inside. I think you should tell him how you feel, but don't yell at him, just tell him calmly and let him know that you are upset about all of this and he needs to make it up to you. Just because you are married doesn't mean that he can stop respecting you.
Reply:If it were me he would have heard about it that day!


Maybe he did not realize how significant the flowers


are or that you would care.


I would not stew I would ask him why she got flowers


and not you.


Maybe he was being cheap and did not want to


buy flowers for you to save money. (really some men think


that way)


Men mostly need to be told what you WANT nicely


and let them think it is their idea.


I think he tried.


Unless he is just a jerk then give him a chance to


explain.

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